Category: problem solving

GROWTH THROUGH FORGIVENESS – RECONCILIATION, NOT REVENGE…

MI-KETZ —  All families experience strife at one point or another. There might be a distancing of siblings, a child angry at a parent, or a parent angry at a child. It’s important that we move past this angry distancing toward reconciliation. In this Torah portion Joseph takes revenge on his brothers for throwing him into a pit and selling him into slavery. No wonder. His pain was sufficient to make anyone want to take revenge. When his brothers travel to Egypt to obtain grain for their family in the face of a famine, the brothers have no idea...

Read More

SELF-ESTEEM…

MI-KETZ —  We naturally want to make life good for our children. We may be uncomfortable seeing them struggle with homework, and we give them a little more help than we should. Deep down we know that, when they complete the task themselves, they’ll feel much better about themselves and will have learned a lot more about the material and their abilities. Joseph was abducted and sold by his brothers into slavery. Years later in this week’s Torah portion, when he has become viceroy to the King of Egypt and wields tremendous power, his brothers come to Egypt from...

Read More

CARING FOR ONE ANOTHER…BUILDING AN ETERNAL BOND

VA-YESHEV — Sometimes brothers and sisters act in a caring manner and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they tell on one another, and sometimes they defend one another. In order for there to be peace in a household, parents must constantly foster a family culture where brothers and sisters care deeply about one another. In this week’s Torah parsha there is tremendous strife between Joseph and his brothers. Jacob, their father, clearly plays favorites and gives Joseph a multi-colored coat to signify his love for Joseph. Joseph fuels the tension created by this favoritism by telling on his brothers. Sometimes...

Read More

THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL…

VA-YESHEV — Have you been pushed to go to an event that you did not want to attend, and then had a great time? Ever start out disliking a very demanding teacher who later in the year becomes appreciated for making you a much better student? In life many times “things might not be what they seem at first”. This week’s Torah portion, Va-yeshev, contains what might be one of the most famous examples of the idea that things which start off badly might come to a good end. Joseph, the favored youngest son of Jacob, is sold into...

Read More

HOW TO WRESTLE WITH INNER STRUGGLES…

VA-YISHLACH — We all struggle. While adults often think of children as having charmed lives, they often struggle to control the raging and contradictory emotions within them. Children don’t yet have the tools that adults have to manage their passionate emotions, and so their wrestling can be particularly intense. At the same time, adults struggle to manage relationships, a household, finances and professions. Jacob, in this week’s Torah portion, struggles mightily. Alone in the middle of the night, separated from his family and possessions, he encounters a stranger. Commentators say it is a divine messenger. They wrestle until dawn....

Read More

Free 2-Minute Discussion Starters

Testimonials

Rabbi Charles Savenor

Claar’s visionary project is not just an amazing resource for parents, but also for Jewish educators and schools.

Director of Congressional Education, Park Avenue Synagogue

Rabbi Steven Wernick

A wonderfully easy, deeply enriching, and modern tool for families of all ages to share in the timeless tradition of Torah.

CEO United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism

Glenna Lee

What you are conveying is exactly what I am trying to achieve with my students. It is such a valuable resource.

Educator & Curriculum Writer

Discover More Discussion Starters in Our Book